Talking to Strangers. Malcolm Gladwell. 2019. Little, Brown and Company. 401 pages. [Source: Public library.] I picked up Talking to Strangers with little in the way of expectations. I had a long drive, and wanted to listen to something I could concentrate on enough to stay awake. I got so much more than that with this book. Talking to Strangers asks two central questions — why don’t we know when people are lying to us and why don’t we believe people are telling the truth? The big picture example for this book is the traffic stop of Sandra Bland in 2015. Gladwell asks what went wrong in this encounter, and then uses a host of case studies to illustrate how people make sense of the words, actions, and intentions of strangers, often highlighting the missteps and misinterpretations thad led to disastrous outcomes. The book is both informative and entertaining in presenting various communication and behavioral theories. Gladwell shows skill in presenting both well and lesser-known situations with nuance that feels more like a conversation and less like sitting in a lecture hall. He presented the case studies with an appropriate level of succinctness while being sure to cover information that…

Motherhood So White. Nefertiti Austin. 2019. Sourcebooks. 300 pages. [Source: ARC provided courtesy of NetGalley.] Motherhood So White is a memoir that I picked up because I wanted to see a Black woman’s experience in parenting centered. Often, conversations about parenthood are colorblind, and use whiteness as a default when parenting Black children is far more nuanced. What I read was a robust memoir that examines numerous aspects of Black parents raising Black children specifically. As expected, Motherhood So White is deeply personal. Austin provides a great deal of detail about her own upbringing, including her complicated relationship with her biological parents and how that led to her being reared by her extended family.  Her reflections on the desire to become a parent, and eventual path toward adoption, provide further opportunities to highlight parenthood from several lenses. She considers economic barriers and their impact on the nuclear family. She examines implicit biases and how they impact children’s experiences in the educational and social services systems.  She also spends a great deal of time sharing her eventual experiences as a single mother to a Black son and navigating everything from her own family’s acceptance, trips to the barber shop, parent-teacher conferences, reuniting her son with…

God-Level Knowledge Darts. Desus Nice & The Kid Mero. 2020. Random House. 210 pages. [Source: Personal copy & public library.] Anyone who is remotely familiar with the unique brand of comedy offered up by Desus and Mero won’t be shocked or disappointed by the knowledge darts they drop in their literary debut. The same irreverence they deliver on their podcast and late night show is presented in God-Level Knowledge Darts, complete with the back and forth that is their signature. The topics on which they offer advice range from parenthood, relationships, recreational drug use, personal finances, and even toxic masculinity. While some of the advice teeters on the edge of legality and good sense, they do drop some insightful and useful lessons that are rooted in experience (they did that so hopefully you won’t have to go through that). If you need to spice up a boring relationship, they’ve got you. Not sure if the the possibility of NFL stardom outweighs the risk of CTE? It’s in here. Trying to figure out how to how to finesse when the rent is late? That’s here, too. And if you find yourself unable to avoid the bookings, beloved? They have some best…

Salt: A World History. Mark Kurlansky. 2003. Penguin Books. 494 pages. [Source: public library.] I didn’t know exactly what I was getting into when I picked up Salt, but what I got was quite literally a world history of salt. At its core, this book asserts that “since the beginning of civilization, salt was one of the most sought-after commodities in human history.” I can’t say I’ve ever put that much though into salt beyond its use as a condiment. Salt is not meant to be a sexy book, but it captured the complexities of salt with more appeal than I expected. I would assume that most people think about salt for its culinary uses, and Kurlansky pays a lot of attention to how different cultures used salt for maintaining food supplies with limited technologies. By the end of the book, though, I was tired of reading about salted meat and fish. Salt is good for more than just cooking, though, so Kurlanksy gave examples of various cultural or local practices that made salt significant – these included burial practices and transportation uses. There is a significant focus on methods of gathering salt, from early solar evaporation of brine to…

Sometimes Sneezing Hurts. C. Sleek. 2018. 236 pages. [Source: Kindle Unlimited] Every once in a while, I find myself down a rabbit hole on Goodreads. Such was the case when I chanced upon Sometimes Sneezing Hurts. The title alone was enough to make me pause, but the description intrigued me. A divorced bachelor … journaling? Seems like a unicorn worth reading about. Overall, this was an enjoyable read. I mean, I started it in the evening and stayed up until 1:30am to finish it. It’s very conversational, which is to be expected of its journal format. The author finds a pretty good balance of humor, thoughtful introspection, and assessment throughout that made it easy to get invested in his adventures over the course of a year. What really had me interested in this book was its unique-to-me perspective. I admit that I’m a serial monogamist, so the idea of dating new person after new person is almost foreign and anxiety-inducing to me. Couple that with the fact that I don’t often have in-depth dating conversations with men and there’s definitely a gap in my knowledge of current perspectives on dating. I also really wanted to get a male perspective that…